Visitation

Just came back from visiting my relatives in KL. It has been a pleasant and relaxed short stayfor us - my parents and I. We left Sgp on Sat afternoon and arrived back last night. It was a trip initiated by my brother coz he had wanted to bring girlfriend to visit relatives. The gesture is quite remarkable and appreciated. As it turned out, there was a change in his plan very last minute and both of them did not join us for this trip. This turn of events upsetted me and my parents substantially. I feel that its quite irresponsible. Everyone went out of his way to accommodate his schedule, and then he changed his mind last minute. Of course, he has his reasons. But I really wonder how much does he value family ties and kinship.

We had earlier informed my aunt to arrange accommodation for us at her place. Well, apparently, news of my bro's gf impending visit spread like wild fire among my relatives. So many of them turned up at my aunt's place, hoping to meet her. But oh they were so so disappointed, especially my dear grandma. I guess that they have been waiting for this occasion for ages. I am so apologetic towards them, and I really can't explain my brother's choice. If only I can convey such deep regret to my brother, and tell him that he has "cried wolf" once. He should never treat their goodwill and concern flippantly, but cherish them and respond in love.

During this trip, we managed to meet 10 of my 12 aunts/uncles. My mum had a field day of chatting with them and getting updates on how each family member is doing. I'm always amazed at how well she gets along with them as their da-shao (eldest sister in law). Somehow, my parents have comanded their respect and love through the years.

While we were there, our typical activities were: -
- wake up
- have breakfast with relatives at some eatery
- walk walk, do some shopping
- gather at the home of someone to chat/relax
- go out for lunch in big group
- return to the house for afternoon tea/DVD/karaoke
- go out for dinner together
- converge at one house after that
We took the opportunity to celebrate Mother's Day for my grandma. The time of staying together was good, I cherish every moment of it. This also explains the amount of weight I put on during this period lah. Duh...

Thank God for preserving my grandparent's health. And also for the safe, relaxing, pleasant trip. Indeed, I will strive to build deeper relationships with my relatives in KL, especially the younger cousins. May I be a big sister figure to them and be able to share my life with them...